Vows, & some tips on how to write them.

Vows can be anything you would like them to be.

This is a time for you to say, in front of your family and friends many things to each other, about how much you love and cherish each other and promise to stay together, but also this can be a chance to recognise some of your own, maybe less appealing habits and promise to try to change them.

Maybe this is your chance to promise to try and learn to cook, or to stop leaving your shoes in the doorway! It could be that you feel you should take more responsibility in your joint finances or cleaning the car or the house more! They can be anything which you believe are important to each other, and a lovely chance to remind each other what you are looking for, in your new life together.

It is important to say ‘I Love You’ …

And maybe why you love each other, what it is that you love about each other – these simple facts could be so very useful, not just now, but to look back on in the future.

To say that you will be there for each other, through thick and thin; it may seem so trite, but actually to say these things to each other in front of other people will give them some resonance and meaning, and maybe to acknowledge that you may, in the future, need the help of family and friends if things ever get tough.

Surprise vows?

Yes! A complete surprise from each other, for each other; you can give them to your celebrant who will include them in the ceremony! Very meaningful and also lots of fun!

YOU decide.

You can decide whether you prefer the vows to be read out by each of you in one paragraph, as a statement; or each vow can be repeated either after the celebrant or after each other.

The ideas and ways of writing and delivering your vows are endless and as with all the other elements of the ceremony, can be as personal and unique to you as you would like them to be.

But, DON’T promise anything you feel you cannot carry out, and DON’T promise perfection!